Comments on: Shouldn’t there be an instruction manual for this? http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/2008/09/08/shouldnt-there-be-an-instruction-manual-for-this/ Finding unexpected moments of bliss in my ordinary life Thu, 01 Jul 2010 17:02:45 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Sheri http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/2008/09/08/shouldnt-there-be-an-instruction-manual-for-this/comment-page-1/#comment-2217 Sheri Wed, 10 Sep 2008 02:28:47 +0000 http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/?p=198#comment-2217 Oh Bruce, thank you. I really needed to hear that, people actually do make it through this and can smile about it. I appreciate your advice, I know I know I need to let him find his own way. It's just so hard, very difficult to see him struggling. Pam, I do that too, I try to remind myself that just a few short year ago he was so happy and content. Amazing how much he has changed. They still love their moms, they just can't or won't show it right now. We just have to love them that much more, even when it's hard. Good luck to you,too. Oh Bruce, thank you. I really needed to hear that, people actually do make it through this and can smile about it. I appreciate your advice, I know I know I need to let him find his own way. It’s just so hard, very difficult to see him struggling.

Pam, I do that too, I try to remind myself that just a few short year ago he was so happy and content. Amazing how much he has changed. They still love their moms, they just can’t or won’t show it right now. We just have to love them that much more, even when it’s hard. Good luck to you,too.

]]> By: Bruce http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/2008/09/08/shouldnt-there-be-an-instruction-manual-for-this/comment-page-1/#comment-2216 Bruce Wed, 10 Sep 2008 00:30:10 +0000 http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/?p=198#comment-2216 First of all, yes, you will survive it. We all do. In my opinion, you can help him best by just letting him know that you are there for him and then be there when he needs you. Until then, be content to stay in the background. Making things easier for him is not necessarily the best thing we can do as parents. They need to find their own way and sometimes it may mean some hardship. Sometimes, if it's hard, they will learn better to cope with things later. My last comment is about your husband. Play the tag team. When you are absolutely fed up or at a loss as to what to do, let him try. If he feels the same way at the same time, I would say, back off and let him ride it out. There comes a wonderful time when eventually, they come back and seemed to need and want us again. My son will be 19 at the end of October. We survived and I am sure you will too. :) First of all, yes, you will survive it. We all do. In my opinion, you can help him best by just letting him know that you are there for him and then be there when he needs you. Until then, be content to stay in the background. Making things easier for him is not necessarily the best thing we can do as parents. They need to find their own way and sometimes it may mean some hardship. Sometimes, if it’s hard, they will learn better to cope with things later. My last comment is about your husband. Play the tag team. When you are absolutely fed up or at a loss as to what to do, let him try. If he feels the same way at the same time, I would say, back off and let him ride it out.

There comes a wonderful time when eventually, they come back and seemed to need and want us again.

My son will be 19 at the end of October. We survived and I am sure you will too. :)

]]> By: Pam http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/2008/09/08/shouldnt-there-be-an-instruction-manual-for-this/comment-page-1/#comment-2214 Pam Tue, 09 Sep 2008 21:49:21 +0000 http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/?p=198#comment-2214 I also have a 13 year old son, and all I can say is, I'm so sorry for you. My son is such a good boy, but, oh my gosh, hormones have so changed his moods. I just try to remember how sweet he was when he was a baby, you know, when he really loved me. Ok, he still loves me, but it's hard for him to show it sometimes. Ok, maybe it's my hormones too! Good luck! I also have a 13 year old son, and all I can say is, I’m so sorry for you. My son is such a good boy, but, oh my gosh, hormones have so changed his moods. I just try to remember how sweet he was when he was a baby, you know, when he really loved me. Ok, he still loves me, but it’s hard for him to show it sometimes. Ok, maybe it’s my hormones too! Good luck!

]]> By: Sheri http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/2008/09/08/shouldnt-there-be-an-instruction-manual-for-this/comment-page-1/#comment-2212 Sheri Tue, 09 Sep 2008 17:36:49 +0000 http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/?p=198#comment-2212 I was really hoping boys would be easier, but I was wrong. I think it's a tough age for everyone. I know we'll survive, I just have to vent sometimes. I was really hoping boys would be easier, but I was wrong. I think it’s a tough age for everyone. I know we’ll survive, I just have to vent sometimes.

]]> By: mary http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/2008/09/08/shouldnt-there-be-an-instruction-manual-for-this/comment-page-1/#comment-2210 mary Tue, 09 Sep 2008 12:35:26 +0000 http://www.unexpectedbliss.com/?p=198#comment-2210 This, by far, is what I dread most about becoming a mom: the teenage years. And I always thought boys would be so much EASIER in this regard, but I guess not. I hope that this "phase" passes quickly for you all. :) This, by far, is what I dread most about becoming a mom: the teenage years. And I always thought boys would be so much EASIER in this regard, but I guess not. I hope that this “phase” passes quickly for you all. :)

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